Two Very Wonderful Years

Kilig to the bones :)

My husband made a sweet post for our 22nd month on his blog (which is the very first time), so i have to return the favor of doing my post for him. Of course, i am equally sweet noh!! And upon leaving him comments that i made my official kilig entry on our special day today he surprised me with a greenwich lasagna supreme right in front of me at my desk! (i have been craving for that pasta for years already!!)He succeeded on surprising me big time! You got to have an access before you get in to wherever floor you are going here in our building. So it must be luck that the door was open when he arrived on our floor. Plus he already befriended our lobby guards way back when! :) So it was a continuous teasing part with the officemates :) weeeh but really am so kilig! Like a teenager who get a glimpse of his crush, that is what i feel right now! hahah

Thank you so much for the lasagna and for the sweet entry on your blog!

Happy 22nd my husband!
Love you lots! :)

selling the drama

i want to share a secret. yobib and i had our greatest fight on our first christmas as a married couple. the reason, i already forgot now. but what made it big was my being so quiet. i was so overly sensitive, charge it to my pregnancy. i kept all my thoughts inside me while he likes to talk misunderstandings at once. and i hate to talk when i am mad. back then, we are two separate individuals, who does not like to meet halfway!

we made a scene, soap opera like. i packed my things and prepared to leave. he was mad too and carried my things away.. an unpleasant scene from a newly married couple on a christmas day. though no words were spoken, it still left a sad spot on my soul. i swear it wil never happen ever again! from then on, i will speak my mind - we will talk! i will voice out my feelings! my views will never be secret to him.

yobib is very vocal, he keeps no secrets from me and that includes his naughty escapades with girls in the past.. and i must say he played around nonstop before! (oooops that's another secret!) but then i learned something, i guess our being so open to each other helps to strengthen our relationship. we have our little misunderstandings now, but it will not last an hour.. we will talk, get back into each other arms smiling, forgiving, kissing and making up.

and yes, we sold the drama. though it does not make us rich, it gives us enough of something to keep us together. we swap the drama with talk.

ever after

want to change name? get married!

i dont know if its also the same case in other country, but here in the philippines when a woman get married, it will be automatic to use her husbands surname. and so if you want to change your name, go on and get married! ;)

but you will have to face the consequences of it all (evil laugh here! LOL), i will name a few i experienced..

first, it's like going back to grade 1. i have to right down remembering what is my new surname and middle name. often times in the past months, i would need an extra paper to back me up, i know its weird but i really contemplate first before filling up a single sheet!

second, having a new name, middle name and surname mean new signature. after a year, i now know what my signature will be. it was a constant practice on my part.. and scratch papers have been all around my table since day one of being Mrs. E. and i must agree that it's hard to create a new mess like handwriting!

third, it is a must to change all important identification cards! from SSS ID, tax identification ID, company ID, philhealth, credit cards and ATM cards. have i mention the bills?! you have to prepare yourself with handfulls of xerox copies of your marriage contract!

fourth, i've been praying to God not to give me a spouse surname beginning with E. though i know i am God's favorite, he gave me my husband whose surname starts with E. now my whole name initials is the word i dreaded the most, being LATE.

fifth, now you know that my real name starts with L, mother's maiden name with A, my maiden name with T, and my surname now is E.

I am Mrs LATE.

Marriage Threat

first he woke me up with a rose and a letter which read - he wanted to marry me.. and take me away from hubby!

second how did he knew i love surprises? and red rose? and love letters?

third, does one true love really exists??


yes for the first, he woke me up with a rose and a letter coz hubby told him to
do so, a nephew would be so obedient to his uncle!

for second, i was sick that day and a surprise would definitely lift me up, one red rose could do magic!

and third, one true love was here, is here and will be here in my heart. and it is meant to stay forever!

Under the Influence

Marriage is a compromise, its about doing something for the other person even when you dont want it. - The Wedding by Nicholas Sparks

Well for me: Marriage is a compromise, it is about drinking beer with your husband even when you dont like it! :p

My husband is alcoholic, nah im just kidding. As much as he is a good husband, he is an obedient one too. Here's a little story. You see, sometime last month, i allowed him to drink (alcohol) on weekends ONLY WHEN there is an occassion. BUT i noticed that every weekend, there gone one celebration to another like a birthday of someone, anniversary of another, their dog Via was expecting (can you imagine!) and when that pity dog got miscarriage. All these they celebrated with a BRANDY!

As they say, when you cannot stop them, join them. And so there i had some drink with him! Kidding. Im no saint, i admit i got drunk in the past too. But i really appreciate its bitter taste when im into a bitter situation. But when it's weekly, OMG!?!

And before you conclude, i have to reveal now that, that picture was from my ex boss despidida party at Giligans a month ago and each of us got a bottle of beer. :)

Separate Lives

Woke up from a sleepless night, took a bath with no trace of your hands on the soap.

Mondays (everyday!) will never be the same without you by my side.

Alone at the bus, I rushed myself to sleep, only by then I would dream of you, us, and our daily rants about life while cuddling and tickling at each other’s bones

I could not dare sit on the seats we called “lovers lane” cause I am alone by myself, me and i. And got no lover around :(

I paid for a single fare. I used to sleep fast to ignore this part, I know you would always pay for me!

Miss someone guiding me through at every single move i made..

I run going to the office, I miss you pulling me and running with me when I will be late and I don’t want to walk fast

I skip breakfast. I will miss our everyday morning meal at the canteen.

I miss our flirty chats. Our emails. Our phone conversations. I miss you.

I had a solo lunch, was in tears. I told you, I have to get used to it by now.

But I cant.

Every inch of you, all traces of you were here with me.

I miss you here in Makati!

Cant wait to be night time again, cause by then i will be at your arms hugging, kissing and never letting me go.

You will thank me for warning you

On my quest to have a healthy marriage, I have files of what to do lists on my computer and share it to husband, who gets bored reading and so I find myself narrating each and every points on him. He ought to know, it’s a partnership! :)

But what I never read from those articles on magazines/newspapers on building a healthy relationship is that one has to lose self when you get married.

Until last sunday morning’s mass.The priest was right. The first thing one should be prepared of when falling in love is

TO CRY. It’s the package. One beautifully wrap gift called love but with lots of aches and hurts on the side. Yes it’s true, when you love, you get hurt, you cry. And you will cry buckets if not rivers of tears when you get married.

Yes, our marriage is not always a bed of roses, not always a smiley, but we try to pull through. Maintaining a partnership called marriage is hard, the bankruptcy rate is high. LOL

In marriage, there is not only overflowing of joy but also lots of tears. But I think it is with this tears that fuels the flame of love. Some tears of joy here, some tears of heartaches there. It’s the science of love.

Why get married?

the cons:

1. unang una, mahal. bongga ng highest level na magastos. isang araw na okasyon, ilang taon mong pinag ipunan! well that is, kung hindi ka naman anak ni richie rich at di ka nag pa sponsor ng kasal sa parents mo :) LOL

2. isipin mo na lang na matatali ka sa isang stranger for the rest of your life. locked in a room, got nowhere to go and nowhere to hide.

3. when you decide di na lang sarili mo ang paulit ulit na tatanungin mo, you have to consult someone at marinig lahat ng kabaligtaran ng plans mo..

4. may nagbabantay sa bawat kilos mo and that includes what to wear or where to go. dapat lahat ng kilos in consensus!

5. di mo na nga carry ang sapaw ng ketek ng ulo mo, sasabayan at pag aaralan mo pa ang tindi ng topak ng mapapangasawa mo.

if you're ready sa lahat ng 'to, GO on! patali ka na..
on the other hand, dahil may mga cons heto naman ang bright side of getting hitched..

the pros:

1. mahal at magastos, OO. sabi nila karangyaan laang yan, pero kung kaya naman ng marangya, go! its a matter of preference. sabi nga you only get married once, unless you live in a country na pede ang divorce... but its not only the marriage contract that binds you together, its the love! kesehodang civil o church wedding pa yan! ang importante nagmamahalan kayo. hindi maaalala ng tao ang suot mo o ang mga handa mong pagkain nung araw na yun. ang makita kayong hawak kamay until the wee hours of your lives, magkasama at nagmamahalan until your lastest breath, yun ang mas bonggang memory na tatatak sa puso nila..

2. yes, ikaw na ikulong sa isang kuwarto kasama ang lalaking pinakamamahal mo, aayaw ka pa? syempre, go go go! kahit walang tulugan at walang liguan.. :) LOL

3. kung dati you're alone and lost deciding and planning things, ngayon may partner in crime ka ng laging katuwang mula sa pinakamaliit na iniisip at pinaplano mo.. your plans may not be the same pero dahil nagmamahalan kayo at you want the best, kahit anu pa yan, mapagkakasunduan!

4. opkors you want to look good and sexy not only for your husband's eyes pero para rin sa sarili mo, feel good thing ika nga. BUT now you can wear that skimpiest skirt and littlest tube you dare to wear for his eyes only! mas bonggacious! AND you can go wherever you like to go with your driver slash bodyguard slash lover slash husband who has his eyes looking only at you, super haba pa ang hair mo! :)

5. you learn to love not only the good side of the person.. you embrace his individuality. and thank God kasi kahit topakin ka at topakin siya pinagtagpo kayo, to love and behold.. for better or for worst.. til death do you part!

This time i'll be sweeter

One petty arguments lead to another. And you want to talk about it, fix the situation, solve the problem and build a stronger relationship. Confrontational ka kasi, while i am not. I keep everything inside me, i dont want to talk! I wanted some space, and you interpret it as - separation.

Hiwalay kung hiwalay na parang kanta ni Beyonce,

To the left to the left
Everything you own in the box to the left
In the closet, that's my stuff
Yes, if I bought it, baby, please don't touch (don't touch)

Akala ko tuloy magiging official theme song na ng buhay ko ang kanta ni Phil Collins..

Well I held on to let you go
And if you lost your love for me,
well you never let it show
There was no way to compromise
So now we’re living (living)
Separate lives


So glad im singing a different tune now, love song still and much kilig to the bone! Angela Bofill.. Pasok! :D

This time i'll be sweeter
our love will run deeper
i won't mess around
i won't let you let down
have faith in me
have faith in me

Wont mess around means we will talk, i will not be dumb. i will not be hard on you. i will not be as cold as ice.. i will try not to be a pasawife ever again and i will love you more than you love me!

Yay, i am back from the moon. Glad that i left there my old me. Anyong* to a new me! :)

*Anyong - A greeting from Korea

Although there are many trial marriages...

..... there is no such thing as a trial child!



before going to work this morning, hubby requested for a snap shot.. after seeing my father and child photo i sigh while thanking God of our marriage and our little family. and then i thought of others, their marriage, some trial marriages or broken union in its sense...

yes, there are many trial marriages, and every newly wed couple are on adjustment period even after ten years or so of matrimony, BUT there is no trial child. to have a child is to be responsible enough. when someone asked me my biggest responsibility so far? i would often reply, my husband and my child!

yes, i am responsible on my husband's becoming, will he be a better person after saying, yes i do to me? i guess he is responsible for himself partly as a husband and a father, but i will contribute the biggest on his becoming as a person on our society..

also, i am responsible on this little child, on molding her to be a good person, on her utmost share on our society and on her valuable part in this world.

true enough, family is the smallest unit of the society and from it roots all the world's becoming. and why am i saying this? i guess, i just got inspired from yena's poses in this picture! :D kala niyo deep na noh? hahah heheh..

truth is, i am so overwhelmed now. last night, right after leaving yena to her daddy, hubby and his nephews heard her said “MAMA” with her eyes on my direction. i did not hear it, but knowing yena called me “mama’ brings shiver to my bones! i soooo love it!